tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post2257777071758378977..comments2023-10-23T15:18:13.558-05:00Comments on Carpe Diem: A Little White Lie?Allyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01816929643644946388noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-7042850884198561482008-07-16T10:00:00.000-05:002008-07-16T10:00:00.000-05:00Ys: Seriously! I know lots of (cool) people who ha...Ys: Seriously! I know lots of (cool) people who have too.<BR/><BR/>Susanna Rose: Oh congratulations on your beautiful daughter!! I would imagine couples like you and your husband have helped give online dating a better reputation:)<BR/><BR/>FC&F: I've noticed the negative attitude more in younger people and people who live in small towns. I think some people think it seems "desperate."Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816929643644946388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-43949263154701912152008-07-16T07:42:00.000-05:002008-07-16T07:42:00.000-05:00I didn't know there was still a stigma attached to...I didn't know there was still a stigma attached to it! I thought it was the same as using a dating service in the real world, so to speak. I know SO many people who've met online! Tell him he's too old to behaving in such a way ;)boohoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10356984519402775537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-92027176363664784412008-07-16T00:03:00.000-05:002008-07-16T00:03:00.000-05:00"I understand that there's still a (seemingly slig..."I understand that there's still a (seemingly slight) stigma attached to online dating, and I can see why someone wouldn't want to advertise to the world that he's on Match. On the flip side, I don't think we should do things that we're ashamed of and feel a need to lie about."<BR/><BR/>Oh how true this is...my husband and I know all about the stigma attached to online dating...although thankfully it was more when we were dating that people looked at us like we had two heads! I'm with you though that at the end of the day, you want to be with a person who can just confidently state the truth that "we met online" or whatever and not care what others might think. That's the way my husband is and I'm glad for that. He's comfortable in his skin!:)Susanna Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16376171959973544931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-17224004377317486332008-07-15T21:20:00.000-05:002008-07-15T21:20:00.000-05:00I don't think I've ever been in a conversation whe...I don't think I've ever been in a conversation where online dating is looked down upon. What type of stigma goes with it? I just don't see it embarassing. I've got a friend who tells me she has almost worked up the nerve to use match.com. I told her if I were ever single I'd be on there every night!! haAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-67933195840233197452008-07-15T19:29:00.000-05:002008-07-15T19:29:00.000-05:00Lib: I just heard about Christiancafe for the firs...Lib: I just heard about Christiancafe for the first time the other day; you and your husband have a great story. How funny. I'll definitely put that movie and soundtrack on the list. Thanks for the recommendation.<BR/><BR/>AA: Entirely possible. I'll have to share the other info I have with you (that I don't want to put on the blog).<BR/><BR/>Aaron: Thanks!<BR/><BR/>Jennifer: Shady is a good word for how it felt. His whole take on online dating (i.e. he said it was more of an "ego thing") seemed off to me.<BR/><BR/>AM: Like at least 3-4 years older. I just have a hard time believing he's 31. And yes--the caring what people think is also bothersome.<BR/><BR/>Anne: You're right....my intuition is almost always right.<BR/><BR/>Scotty: The scale is useful!Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816929643644946388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-6987215369184786322008-07-15T15:48:00.000-05:002008-07-15T15:48:00.000-05:00oh yeah...looked at your scale.hilarious.and, The ...oh yeah...looked at your scale.<BR/><BR/>hilarious.<BR/><BR/>and, The Last Kiss is one of my favorite movies. i think it sparks great conversation. plus, the soundtrack is dope.Libhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00699453631223643641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-53539950597441927942008-07-15T15:47:00.000-05:002008-07-15T15:47:00.000-05:00chris and i met on the internet, on a CHEESY chris...chris and i met on the internet, on a CHEESY christian website: www.christiancafe.com <BR/>we were actually going to the same church, were in the same young adults group, were both in the military, both in the medical field, both being mentored by our pastor/pastor's wife. but we still met online. how's that for hilarious. <BR/><BR/>i'm YAY for meeting people online. it worked out for, praise God, and if people poke fun at you for doing it, they're just haters.:) hey...it always makes for a great story. <BR/><BR/>there's much lower things you could do. you could go on The Bachelor. let's keep things in perspective:).<BR/><BR/>good luck in your online dating adventures. and way to stick to your guns on the lying thing. <BR/><BR/>oh---btw, was thinking of you earlier today...you should see the movie Into The Wild, and then you need to check out the soundtrack. it was all done by Eddie Veder...very soulful, very folky. i think you'll dig it, seeing that you're a Pearl Jam junkie and we tend to agree on music tastes!!Libhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00699453631223643641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-10924613642430052742008-07-15T13:17:00.000-05:002008-07-15T13:17:00.000-05:00...or you could be over-analyzing again. ;)Aaron #......or you could be over-analyzing again. ;)<BR/><BR/>Aaron # 1Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00584354669062073865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-83134513168166971972008-07-15T12:55:00.000-05:002008-07-15T12:55:00.000-05:00Thanks for the comment. I am not really "new" to ...Thanks for the comment. I am not really "new" to blogging - just starting over again, but I really appreciate the encouragement! <BR/><BR/>As I read this post I had to laugh. Forgive us men - sometimes stigma is so great we cannot get past it. I feel like you made a good decision here.<BR/><BR/>I look forward to hearing what else you have to say.<BR/><BR/>Until next time,<BR/><BR/>AaronAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-53426073742102462862008-07-15T08:44:00.000-05:002008-07-15T08:44:00.000-05:00I wonder why he would feel shame about using an on...I wonder why he would feel shame about using an online dating service. Stigma or not, it's really just another way to meet people. <BR/><BR/>I love that you told him you weren't comfortable lying. The fact that he wanted to cover something up sounds a bit shady to me. Maybe he'll rethink honesty?<BR/><BR/>Glad it was a fun date anyway. (o:Jennifer Owenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607456428606933279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-8713786647190343792008-07-15T07:23:00.000-05:002008-07-15T07:23:00.000-05:00Oh that is a bad start...he is ashamed of Match? I...Oh that is a bad start...he is ashamed of Match? It bothers me that he would lie about it, but it also bothers me that he would even care about it. He is worried about what some people that you go to church with might think...? I dunno...that just doesn't sit well.<BR/><BR/>And when you say he looks older...like, how much?Accidentally Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01869100744451468800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-20069935334835283392008-07-15T07:07:00.000-05:002008-07-15T07:07:00.000-05:00I think you are on to something. One lie could ea...I think you are on to something. One lie could easily lead to other lies. If your gut says he is not being truthful - he probably is not.annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15439772399487069107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-10111257531372977032008-07-15T00:05:00.000-05:002008-07-15T00:05:00.000-05:00I like your scale, and the mutual friends idea.I like your scale, and the mutual friends idea.Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-50039601653229497082008-07-14T23:21:00.000-05:002008-07-14T23:21:00.000-05:00I actually decided that a 6.5 wasn't high enough (...I actually decided that a 6.5 wasn't high enough (after I looked at my scale), so I bumped it up to 7. We had some good conversations and a lot in common.<BR/><BR/>I think I've used the same e-mail account each time. I've not intentionally changed anything; and Match keeps offering!Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816929643644946388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17276748.post-46336556071870080782008-07-14T23:19:00.000-05:002008-07-14T23:19:00.000-05:006.5 rounded up is a 7?Do you sign up with a differ...6.5 rounded up is a 7?<BR/><BR/>Do you sign up with a different email account everytime you use the 3 day free trial on match? ;Pellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14154259479174026938noreply@blogger.com