Thursday, August 16, 2012

A List: My New Job (SAHM)

With my last few jobs I written lists of what I do and don't like about the position to serve as a reminder of sorts because over time it's easy to forget or distort the good and the bad.  So now that I have a new "job" (staying at home with my six month old Jackson) I figured it was time to write a new list.

I like:

(1) I get to be with my son all day long, which means I have so many opportunities to have sweet moments with him. Plus I get to decide what he does (and learns) all day long. 

(2)  Being at home makes it SO much easier for our families and friends to be an integral part of Jackson's life.  Because I'm not interacting with people all day in the office and get lots of one-on-one time with Jackson, I'm glad to have family drop by or keep Jackson whenever is convenient for them--even last minute.  It's also easy for Jackson and me to go to my hometown for the day, so we can visit with my parents, sisters, great aunt, and his cousins. And of course, we have plenty of time for play dates with friends (Jackson watching older kids play:)

(3) That I don't have to "work" anymore nor do I have to figure out how to balance parenting and working (or how to get out the door every morning with a baby or pumping at work, etc.).  I didn't love my job and definitely don't miss the stress of my profession. I have no idea how I could focus for hours each day and do quality work with the lack of sleep I often experience.

(4) Because I'm with Jackson at home, Blake (who works at home) gets to spend more time with Jackson.  I think it's such a gift for Jackson to get so much time with both of his parents.  Plus sometimes I get to go to the pool or gym alone during the day!

(5) The dress code (pajamas, shorts, robe).

I don't like: Things that can be hard (I'm hesitant to say don't like because really this is my dream job that I've wanted for so long, and I'm so grateful to be able to do it and have never once wished I wasn't staying at home with Jackson (and Thatch!)):

(1) Loss of income.  I suspect that if I ever go back to "work," this would be 90% of the reason.

(2) Lack of least with an office job you get a peaceful lunch break; you can quietly play on the internet or drink coffee or use the restroom.  I always liked the time in the morning before I started working when I'd sip coffee and check my email, blogs, and Facebook.  Now I'm doing that on my phone while I feed Jackson--often at some unreasonable time of night :)

(3) The constancy can be challenging, especially on the days Jackson doesn't nap or is unusually fussy.  Thankfully this has gotten much easier as he gets older, but there have been periods of time when Jackson didn't nap at all and Blake was out of town for days, and I was really overwhelmed.  I'm learning that when Blake is going to be gone for 3 days or longer, I probably need to arrange some sort of help for a few hours one day.

(4) It's really unpredictable.  I may think we've got an easy day ahead of us, and then I find myself starting the third load of laundry by 10 a.m. because we've had a poo-plosion and projectile vomitting all over the crib/rug/bedding/baby and Jackson refuses to nap longer than 30 minutes. 

p.s. I'm thankful for the time to blog! It's a great way to reflect.


Allison said...

You look so beautiful in that picture!! And of course, Jackson and Thatch are handsome as ever. I'm glad you're finding time to blog and keep us updated :)

HappyascanB said...

I love this! You are so right..... Beings SAHM is challenging, no doubt... But the rewards? Overflowing!!

But, seriously.... Jackson still eats in the middle of the night? Bless you!!!

You do look amazing! It makes me so happy to see you so happy! I often think of our lunch dates years ago and praise the Good Lord He gave us both the desires of our hearts!!

Ally said...

A2: Thank you! It's been nice to put my thoughts in writing.

B: He slept through the night for over 2 months and then regressed with a growth spurt (I guess). Now we're crying it out, and he's magically dropped his two night feedings! And yes, God has blessed us both so immensely. Wish we could still do lunch together though!

Anonymous said...

What a great picture! :) I enjoyed your candid reflections on your current stage of life. It's so wise to be mindful of both the challenges AND the delights. And I'm looking forward to making the same transition in just a few months!

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

Great list! I think the lack of breaks is largely why I wouldn't do well as a SAHM. But, I think we'd both agree that no matter how hard we think the other person has it, if we had to switch from working mama to SAHM (or vice versa), we'd figure out a way to balance everything. I think it's great you have this opportunity that you've wanted for such a long time!