"Yes, but he'll become a big brother this summer." I replied. And that's when the twenty-something year old in front of me whipped around and said "You're already pregnant, again?!!" You would have thought I was 16 and unmarried or otherwise appearing totally irresponsible by the shock and derision in her tone. Lately the response has been more to the tune of "Wow. You're going to have your hands full." I don't doubt that is true. Honestly I think I'd have my hands full no matter when we were to have our second child because infants are incredibly labor-intensive and adding a person to your family is a tremendous adjustment. Sure, Jackson won't be able to help me like an older child might be able to do, but there are upsides to siblings being really close in age. And really given our ages (34 & 38) and desire to adopt our third child, I feel blessed the Lord chose to give us another child so soon.
Today, however, I was really encouraged by a stranger. Jackson and I were shopping at Sam's Club (yeah for all of the free samples he enjoyed), and a lady told me how adorable Jackson was and how she had three sons. I told her we were having a daughter in July, and she exclaimed "Oh you'll love having them so close together. Mine were 18 and 20 months apart, and I would do it again in a heartbeat." Her obvious joy was such a pleasure to see as is my friend Michelle's Instagram photographs of her 3 boys (each about 18 months apart). An older one often has his arm around a younger one, or they're playing together or helping one another. It's just precious to see.
These examples stand in such stark contrast to the woman at Walmart who told me her 2 children were 18 months apart and that she was suicidal for years and that it was awful. I hadn't even told her I was having another child but what a warning! I'm guessing she probably really needed some help but didn't receive it.
Thankfully I'm not very sensitive to these comments, or all of the other insensitive things people say to pregnant people, but more find it a source of entertainment--or today a source of encouragement as I think about all that my family has to look forward to. Sure it's going to be hard and stressful, but it's also going to be joyful, exciting, and sweet.
p.s. I'm thankful for a day at the aquarium with my mom, niece Mallie, and Jackson. Such a fun day!