I was so tired on my date on Friday night that I briefly wondered if my neighbor had slipped Ruffies into my drink. Then I reasoned that if he had I would probably have been taking my clothes off or something. Plus I was drinking water with dinner, and I think you're supposed to mix it with alcohol. I read way too much true crime in middle school.
It was fun to go on a proper date with a non-internet person. Conversation was easy, albeit riddled with red flags, and after dinner (checked another restaurant off my list) we went to the neighborhood bar for drinks. By that point I was almost deliriously tired but having enough fun to want to keep going, so I just had one martini and proceeded to engage my neighbor in my made-up game "who has the most wrong with him?" It's a stupid game but fun to see what people 'fess up to and how creative they become. My neighbor did surprisingly well and has written to say he's come up with a few more. There's a lot wrong with me, so we may need to go for round two.
The dating scale won't work for this date because I had a really good time but wouldn't go out with him again. With that being said, I'd definitely hang out with him again as friends...in a group or something since I sort of have a rule* against being friends with guys that I find subjectively attractive. Maybe a few of us could have a neighborly outing and include him.
p.s. I'm grateful for my upcoming three day weekend in Nashville and face time with two of my favorite people.
* I'm sort of fond of rules and find that wide margins work best for me in this arena.
11 comments:
You sound like such a fun person to go out on a date with! I'm always crap - awkward, never know what to say, etc.
Enjoy Nashville :)
Ys: Ha. I generally have plenty (too much) to say :)
Why wouldn't you go out with him again?
I love that you know what boundaries are good for you and you set rules to protect your own heart. I think that's where I got into a lot of trouble in the dating arena and never considered myself "worth" making rules for. You are one very cool and wise chick Ally.
TC: He's been on again off again with his ex-girlfriend for the last few months; they've been off for the last two weeks with what seems like a good bit of drama. I'm a fan of people taking time "off" after long relationships.
Jennifer: Aw, thanks. I'm trying to learn from all of my mistakes--and not repeat them hence some of the rules.
My goal is to also not make the same mistakes in my next relationship as I have in the past.
So, I'm not worrying about whether the guy I went out with last night (and had a blast with!) calls or not.
He said he would, that he wants to go out again, so I'm going to believe him and wait it out. He's well aware that I want to see him again, so the ball's in his court.
Oh, how I dislike dating!
It sounds as if you're almost making excuses to see him again.
Two of your favorite people are excited to see you too!!
Round two might give you an opportunity to try that Peace Pill. :)
"I'm a fan of people taking time "off" after long relationships."
I agree. I don't like when people hop from relationship to relationship. I think there needs to be a time to grieve/learn from the relationship.
I'm happy you had a good time. I can imagine it was nice to just go out on an old fashion date...one that did not involve a computer.
Anonymous: Absolutely. Plus people who are always in a relationship leave me feeling like a widget.
CC: Hmm. I've never heard it called that.
Chasie: 10 more hours :)
Aaron: Yep.
BEG: I'm glad you can describe a first date as a "blast." That's impressive.
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