As I was leaving the beach the other weekend, one of the guys told me the he would like to keep in touch and asked for my contact information. Since I wasn't interested in keeping in touch or anything else (not to be mean, but he just totally isn't my type even for friendship), I told him that he could get my e-mail address off of the group e-mail that our friend had sent (Hint #1--if a girl is interested, she'll give a guy her number). I thought that made my lack of interest clear. But he e-mails anyway. It was a nice short e-mail inquiring about one of my (indigent)criminal cases I had mentioned. I responded with a casual e-mail several days later (Hint #2--if a girl likes you, she'll respond within 24 hours especially if she has a desk job like mine). He then writes a really long e-mail, ending with a request for my phone number or for me to call him. Well again, I wait six days to respond (Hint #3) and completely ignore his request (Hint # 4), only briefly responding to his queries and not asking any questions(Hint #5). Here is part of the one page reply that I received:
"Call me or tell me to call you.... if you are interested in chating over the phone or meeting up sometime when you come to Atlanta. That is if you are not in a committed "dating" someone state..Seth or other guy from the office? Can't keep up :)) I'm interested & would enjoy getting to know you & email is not the best way to do that in my opinion. Phone or in person is more efficient.
I am a direct, honest, & up front communicator & I believe in efficiency..... especially regarding dating &/or my relationships with women & men. I prefer not to dance around with a lot of surface talk, etc....& get to the point. That doesn't mean that we don't get to know each other in a casual while having fun manner. I just prefer to expedite the initial stages to one on one interaction....like dinner, lunch, phone, walk, hike, l..etc.
This is who I am and how I am built....Try me, ask me anything. :)
If you are not comfortable communicating this way, then that is cool, some can't deal with it.
A casual email every now & then when we have time is cool too, however I will digress my interests from the above to that unless you let me know different.
I don't subscribe to the 3 day waiting periods, the do's & don'ts...., "The Game" BS...whatever those books are called :)) & I'm not a mind reader or feelings barometer. Going with the flow is awesome, I just prefer a general direction of which direction the flow is going......"
Hmm...so needless to say it's a really long e-mail!
Despite him missing all of what I thought were hints, I do appreciate his forthrightness. It all reminds me of how glad I am that I'm a woman and not a man because I would never put myself out there like this guys does (and with virtually no encouragement), and thus I'd never date or get married. Not sure exactly how I'm going to respond, but I think it'll be something along the line of only being interested in the "casual e-mail every now & then" option.
p.s. It feels completely amazing outside. This weather is perfect.